From what I know of sex in Islam is that it is recreational as well as reproductive. It is not necessary to have reproduction in mind when having sexual intercourse. If I make love to my wife without the intention of having a baby, am I doing wrong?
One of the objectives of marriage is to preserve chastity by minimizing the tendency to commit adultery.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) encouraged us to marry. Therefore, your relationship with your wife is part of obedience to Allah, and it is a charity for the two spouses to indulge in their relationship with one another, because they are, in fact, preserving their chastity and hence their religion, and they are satisfying each other's desires in a lawful manner.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Your approach to your wife is a charity.”
They (the Companions) said: “O Messenger of Allah, we are fulfilling our own desire and we deserve a reward?”
He said: “If a person fulfills his desires unlawfully, is he not deserving of punishment? Thus, if he does so lawfully, he deserves a reward.” [Sahîh Muslim ]
"And [yet], among the people are those who take other than Allah as equals [to Him]. They love them as they [should] love Allah. But those who believe are stronger in love for Allah. If only, those who are unjust could visualize [the Day of Judgement] when they will see punishment, [they would come to know] for sure that all power belongs to Allah and that Allah is stern in retribution. On that Day, those leaders who were being followed, when faced with their punishment, will renounce those who followed them and the bonds which united them will break asunder. The followers will say, "If it could be possible for us to live again, we would renounce them as they have renounced us today." Thus, God will show them the fruits of their deeds. They will sigh with regret, and shall not be able to come out of the Hellfire." [Quran 165-167]
The three essential verses we are discussing here come from the middle portion of Chapter 2, The Cow (Al-Baqarah). This chapter of 286 verses is the longest in the Quran and was revealed in Medina. After the migration to Medina the Muslims began to focus on building a community and thus the chapters revealed there tended to focus on rules. However, The Cow was revealed over a long period of time and its subject matter covers a range of issues including doctrines of faith and fundamental concepts. These three verses are considered essential because they reveal a bitter end for those who choose to worship something other than God.
In the verse previous to these verses, God describes a number of His blessings, particularly those blessings that come from the wonders of the universe. He then begins our essential verses by expressing incredulity in the fact that even though humankind knows and has experience of these things, there are still some people who make a conscious choice to worship other than Him (God). They love these statues or idols or people or things with a commitment that belongs only to God and this is not rational. God has given humankind a myriad of signs, signs that suit all forms of logic and the different needs of human beings. However, instead of coming to the most logical conclusion, some people choose to worship stones or statues or trees or stars. Worship is due to God alone. Being devoted to something other than Him is a dangerous pastime.
Prophet Muhammad, may the mercy and blessings of God be upon him, also always stressed the importance of not worshipping anything other than God. One morning after the prayer Prophet Muhammad explained to his companions the importance recognising God’s complete power over all things. He said, that God said, "This morning one of My slaves became a believer in Me and one a disbeliever. As for him who said, ‘We have been given rain by the grace of God and His mercy,’ that one is a believer in Me, and a disbeliever in the stars; and as for him who said: ‘We have been given rain by such-and-such a star, that one is a disbeliever in Me, and a believer in the stars.’"
True believers are those who take God as their only deity and love Him above everything else. They obey Him, are fearful of His punishment and hope for His mercy and forgiveness. They are the ones who will be successful.
If the ones who are unjust to God, that is do not fulfil His right to be worshipped Alone, could see what was going to happen to them on the Day of Judgement they would have no doubt that God is the Most Powerful and that He is stern in His retribution.
On the Day of Judgment, those so-called religious leaders will disassociate themselves from their gullible followers who fell easy prey to their deception. On that fateful Day those who were followed will admit to their followers that they were themselves astray. In addition to this, Satan himself will denounce his followers and declare his belief in God. I had no authority over you he will say, you chose to follow me. Any bonds that existed between the followed and the followers will be broken, cast asunder in the face of what they finally understand.
The followers will beg for a chance to return to their former lives. They will long to be able to renounce all the things they worshipped instead of God but alas it will be far too late. God will show them their deeds and the fruits of their labours and they will realize that they will never be able to emerge from Hell. They will regret not listening to the words of the messengers and prophets that were sent amongst them. Many will regret not listening to the words of Prophet Muhammad and not taking the verses of the Quran seriously. Those who mocked the verses will long to hear them recited and long for a chance to listen to them and repent. But it will not be granted to them.
The most fundamental belief in Islam is the belief in One God. It forms the basis of Islam and is mentioned over and over again throughout the verses of Quran. Humans were not created except that they should worship God. Thus it seems only logical that giving worship or obedience to something other than God is a great sin; one that cannot be forgiven. If a person dies without having repented from this most grievous sin, their Hereafter will be one of punishment and Hellfire. These three essential verses stress the importance of staying away from polytheism. Prophet Muhammad said that whoever died while claiming that God had a rival will enter Hell.-islamreligion.com
In the university that I attend, there are a few teachers who fail students who do not give them “gifts” and who give grades according to the value of the “gifts” that they receive. I am faced with this situation now. I do not want to pay this bribe, but if I don’t, I will be unjustly failed in the course and may be forced to repeat the year. What should I do?
If the situation is really as you describe it, then it is hoped that there is no sin in your giving this “gift”. This is because you are being coerced into doing so in order to secure what is rightfully yours and avoid suffering from injustice and oppression.
There is nothing of bribery on your part, since you are not offering the “gift” to get something that is not rightfully yours.
It is related from Ibn Mas`ûd that, while he was in Abyssinia, he was unjustly apprehended and forced to give over two gold coins to secure his release.
It is related from some of the jurists among the Successors that “there is no sin in paying a bribe to protect oneself from the other person’s injustice and oppression.” [Tuhfah al-Ahwadhî (4/471)]
At the same time, you as students need to find a way of reporting these teachers to the administration. This comes under the Islamic duty of forbidding wrongdoing. When all the students conspire to remain silent, they are in fact obstructing justice and allowing these criminal teachers to persist in their wrongful conduct.
How does a person kick a bad habit that he has had for years?
When a person recognizes his personal shortcomings and bad habits and has the intention to change them, then that person has taken the first step towards making a positive change in his life.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Verily forbearance is achieved by putting it into practice.” [al-Tabarânî in al-Awsat and al-Bayhaqî in Shu`ab al-Imân]
This means that a person can change his bad habits and manners into good ones.
This can be achieved by taking the following steps:
1. To ask Allah sincerely and frequently to help you.
2. To remember the bad habits upon doing the bad deed. For example, when you are angry, remember the bad habit of raising your voice, and when eating, remember the prohibition of eating with the left hand, and so forth.
3. Sometimes you may forget your endeavors and lapse into your old bad habits. So do not be despair, but try again. Allah will surely help you.
4. You might wish to speak with others who used to suffer from the same bad habits and benefit from their experiences. They can tell you how they managed to overcome their problems.
5. I advise you to read books and listen to recorded lectures that discuss the problem you are trying to overcome. This often proves helpful.
Allah says: “O you who believe! Seek help in patience and prayer. Indeed Allah is with those who are patient.” [Sûrah al-Baqarah: 153]
A woman’s husband repudiated her on three different occasions, saying that she was unlawful to him “like the back of his mother”. However, when he repudiated her, he was angry. Then he repudiated his wife for the third time. She would like to know if these repudiations were valid.
It is a sin for a man to say that his wife that she is unlawful to him like the back of his mother. The Qur’ân describes this statement as “iniquitous and false.”
If a man says such a thing to his wife, he may not have sexual relations with his her again until after he frees a slave. If he is unable to do this (which is the case today in the absence of slaves), then he must fast two consecutive months before he can have sexual relations with his wife again.
He must fast. If he is truly and absolutely incapable of fasting, then and only then may he turn to the next form of expiation, which is the feeding of 60 poor people.
When a woman who generally veils her face in public is performing Hajj or `Umrah, does she keep on wearing her face veil? If not, then why?
We follow what the Prophet teaches us in this matter: “Do not wear a shirt or pants or a turban or a cloak. If a person does not have a pair of sandals, he may then wear leather socks, but he must cut them so that they come below his ankles. Do not wear anything dyed with saffron or warse. A woman should wear neither a veil nor gloves.” [Sahîh al-Bukhârî (1707)]
The woman performing Hajj (pilgrimage) or `Umrah may not wear a veil over her face while in the state of ihrâm. Neither may she wear gloves.
However, if force of habit causes her put on either a veil or gloves by mistake or due to forgetfulness, she is not obligated to sacrifice a sheep.
When she completes her observation of ihrâm for her Hajj or `umrah, she can wear whatever she likes.
If the woman can be seen by strangers, she may temporarily conceal her face from them in some way other than by using a veil.
She has to cover all the rest of her body whether she is in prayer, performing `umrah, or engaged in something else.
The mother of the believers, `A’ishah, said: “Men would pass by us while we were with the Prophet (peace be upon him) engaged in our Hajj rites. We would hide our faces, and when they passed by, we would uncover them.”
When I am not menstruating, I notice that my private parts are usually moist with discharge. I asked all my close Muslim friends and I discovered that the majority have the same condition. And after speaking to a Muslim female medic she told me that the female body discharges fluid as a natural way of cleaning, and she also stated this was the natural condition of the majority of female population and not an illness. How does a Muslim woman maintain her state of purity if she invariably has continious discharge?
The matter of moisture and natural discharge from the vagina has been investigated by Sheikh al-`Uthaymîn, Sheikh Yûsuf al-Qâsim, and Sheikh Ahmad al-Khalîl. Here are their answers:
About vaginal discharge
by Sheikh Muhammad b. Sâlih al-`Uthaymîn
People of knowledge agree that anything which comes out from urinary tract is impure. All other things that come out of the private parts are also generally construed to be impure except for semen.
However, I became dissatisfied with this generalization once I came to know that most women are suffering from permanent discharge. Therefore, we embarked upon further research and further discussions with doctors. From this, we came to our final ruling in this regard, which is as follows:
If such liquid is coming out from the urinary tract, then it is as we said above; impure and invalidates wudû’. On the other hand, if the discharge comes out from the vagina, then it requires a new wudû’, but it is pure and does not require the clothes it moistens to be washed.
About vaginal discharge
by Sheikh Yûsuf al-Qâsim
What comes from the vagina, emanating from the birth canal, is pure. It requires neither a ritual bath, nor wudû’, nor the washing of affected clothing. The reason for this is the absence of any textual evidence – to the extent of my knowledge – that indicates the impurity of this discharge or that it invalidates a woman’s wudû’.
This is very pertinent, especially since this discharge is something that affects all women, from the time of the Prophet (peace be upon him) up to today. If it had been impure or if it had nullified wudû’, this would have been clarified by the Lawgiver.
Also, this discharge is not a waste product – like urine and feces which are the waste products of our food and drink. It is a natural emanation from the womb. This is why it increases with pregnancy, especially during certain months.
This ruling is the final opinion that Sheikh al-`Uthaymîn settled upon at the end of his life.
It was also the view of Ibn Hazm.
And Allah knows best.
About vaginal discharge
by Sheikh Ahmad al-Khalîl
The moisture which comes out from women’s vagina is a matter of disagreement among scholars. The most correct rule, in my opinion, is that it is pure and does not invalidate wudû’.