I have a question concerning fasting, during the fast is it permissible to say I love u to a husband, My husband asked me to say it during fast and I said to him that it is not permissible, he said it is allowed?
Praise be to Allah.
There is nothing wrong with a man playing with his wife, or a wife with her husband, by saying words while fasting, on the condition that there is no danger of either of them climaxing. If there is the danger that they may reach climax, as in the case of one who has strong desires and who fears that if he plays with his wife his fast may be broken by his ejaculating, then it is not permissible for him to do that, because he is exposing his fast to the risk of being broken. The same applies if he fears that he may emit prostatic fluid (madhiy). (al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 6/390).
The evidence that it is permissible to kiss and play with one’s wife, if one is sure that there is no risk of reaching climax, is the report narrated by al-Bukhaari (1927) and Muslim (1106) from ‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) who said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to kiss and touch (his wives) while he was fasting, and he was the most in control of his desires.’” In Saheeh Muslim (1108) it is narrated from ‘Amr ibn Salamah that he asked the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), “Can a fasting person kiss (his wife)?” The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Ask her” – meaning Umm Salamah – and she told him that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to do that.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “With regard to things other than kissing that may lead to intercourse, such as embracing and the like, we say that the ruling on them is the same as the ruling on kissing, and there is no difference between them.” (al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 6/434).
Based on the above, your simply saying to your husband, “I love you,” or his saying that to you, does not affect your fast.
After performing the dusk prayer, Muslims return to their homes either to continue with their appetizers or eat dinner. Most people, however, choose not to eat much, as it will hinder them in performing that worship which is the delight of the believer in Ramadan – the taraweeh prayer. This prayer is held immediately after the night prayer, which is performed when the last traces of dusk disappear, about an hour and a half after the dusk prayer.
The Taraweeh (Night Prayer)
The taraweeh is a special prayer performed in congregation. It is quite long, lasting about an hour to an hour and a half. It is performed every night of Ramadan, and in it most of the Imams, or prayer leaders, seek to complete the recitation of the entire Quran. In it Muslims pray to their Lord, standing, bowing and prostrating to Him, and gain the opportunity to listen to the Quran in its entirety, listening to its verses in a melodious voice as if they were being revealed then and there. Mosques with more proficient recitors tend to fill quickly, so worshippers arrive earlier than the stated time to reserve their place. Some mosques have over a thousand worshippers who come from all over the city to attend. Indeed it is an experience one awaits an entire year to experience. The taraweeh prayer is a means of forgiveness, as the Prophet said:
“Whoever stands the night in prayer in Ramadan believing in God and seeking His reward, all his previous sins will be forgiven.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
Worshippers listen to the Quran being recited in prayer and ponder over its meanings, and the voice of the Imam has much to do with the effect it has on people. In various mosques, it is not rare to see people crying while listening to its verses, verses which speak of the blessings of God, His Mercy and Love, His Paradise which He has reserved for the patient believers, as well as verses which speak about the sufferings of Hell. The Quran is a revelation which speaks to each individual, and thus each individual feels that God is directly addressing him when he hears it. Thus the feelings which arise while listening to its recitation is truly incomparable and indescribable.
At the end of the taraweeh prayer, the Imam and the congregation raise their hand in supplication to God for themselves and for the Muslims, asking God to forgive their sins, give them strength to practice their faith and remain firm, enter them into Paradise, to cure the sick, to forgive those who have already passed away, and all other good things of this world and the next. They also ask God to save them from the punishment of the day of Judgment, to ease their account on that day, and also to ease the sufferings of their brethren throughout the world. It is not uncommon to find the majority of the congregation in tears begging their Lord. Indeed the taraweeh prayer is one of the highlights of Ramadan and plays a great role in giving inspiration to and the rectitude of the Muslims.
After the taraweeh, Muslims return to their homes and eat dinner, and then retire to bed in preparation for their early rise for the predawn meal.
As one can see, Ramadan is a month in which various kinds of worship are performed to God. Ramadan is like a training period in which Muslims change their lifestyles to one which is in accords to God’s commandments. From the time a person awakens in the morning, throughout the day and into the night, a Muslim is performing various types of worship, some obligatory while others voluntary, all in order to gain the pleasure of his Lord. This month is indeed a key factor in the lives of Muslims, a period of rejuvenation in which the believer is inspired for another year in his life, one filled with the pleasure of God and void of His anger.
There are other special features in Ramadan.
The Last Ten Nights
1. “Indeed we have revealed it (the Quran) in the Honored Night.
2. And what will explain to you what the Honored Night is?
3. The Honored Night is better than a thousand months.
4. In it, the angels descend as well as the Spirit (Gabriel) by the permission of their Lord, with all types of decrees.
5. ‘Peace’ it is until the rising of dawn.” (Quran:97:1-5)
It was Ramadan in which the Quran was revealed from the heavens to the Earth. More specifically, it was one of the last ten nights of this blessed month. The Prophet said:
“Seek the Honored Night in the last ten.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
On that night, worship and good deeds are better than performing them for a thousand months, as mentioned in the verses above. Thus the Prophet would increase his worship by staying awake the whole night in worship.
“When he entered the [last] ten [nights] of Ramadan, the Prophet would ‘rollup his sleeves’ and give life to the whole night, and waken his family.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
Muslims in Ramadan seek this Honored Night in order that they may be given an increase in reward. Muslims spend the whole night in worship, from praying the taraweeh prayer to reading the Quran, supplicating to God, and praying extra voluntary prayers. During these nights, there is even an extra congregational prayer held in the mosques which lasts for about an hour and a half to two hours up until the time of the predawn meal. Nights are alive with worship, and people for these ten nights expend all efforts in doing so, seeking that they may have spent the Honored Night in the worship of God. The Prophet said:
“Whoever stood in prayer in the Honored Night, believing in God and hoping for His reward, all his previous sins will be forgiven.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
Ramadan is a month of forgiveness, and people hope that they will people from those who are saved from the Fire:
“God chooses who will be saved from the Fire (in Ramadan), and that is every night.” (Al-Tirmidhi)
For this reason in Ramadan, people fast, pray, and seek the Honored Night in order that they may be forgiven for their shortcomings and enter Paradise.
Umrah (Lesser Pilgrimage to Mecca)
The Prophet encouraged people to visit the Kaaba and perform the lesser pilgrimage, or Umrah. He said:
“Indeed performing Umrah in Ramadan is equal to performing Hajj with me.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
Thus, millions of people flock to Mecca to perform this lesser pilgrimage, most coming during the last ten days of the month hoping to earn the reward of Hajj and also witnessing the prayers at the Kaaba, an exhilarating experience for the believer. One meets Muslims from all parts of the world, from all cultures and races, and all have congregated in this sacred sanctuary, fasting throughout the day and worshipping throughout the night, all to earn the pleasure of their Creator, their Lord.
A Month of Forgiveness
We mentioned various Prophetic sayings which state that the various types of worship in Ramadan are a means for forgiveness. Fasting, the taraweeh prayer, and praying in the Honored Night are all means of forgiveness.
“Whoever fasts the month of Ramadan, believing in God and hoping for His reward, all his previous sins will be forgiven.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
“Whoever stands the night in prayer in Ramadan believing in God and seeking His reward, all his previous sins will be forgiven.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
“Whoever stood in prayer in the Honored Night, believing in God and hoping for His reward, all his previous sins will be forgiven.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
Ramadaan in general is a month of savior from the Fire:
“God chooses who will be saved from the Fire (in Ramadan), and that is every night.” (Al-Tirmidhi)
A Month of Charity
As mentioned before, people seek to feed others with food for which to break their fast and donate food rations to needy families to suffice them the month of Ramadan. In addition to this, people are more charitable in general during Ramadan, as charity is considered worship for which God will reward them. The companioned the Prophet, Abdulah b. Abbas, said:
“The Prophet was the most generous of people, and he was even more generous in Ramadan.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
In order to increase in their good deeds, some Muslims choose to offer their Zakaah, or obligatory annual charity, in this month as well.
There is a special type of worship in Islam in which one devotes himself to the mosque for a period of time, whether it be for a day or a week, and spends his time in reciting the Quran and mentioning praises of God, again a training for having a person becoming accustomed to living a life revolved around the worship of God. In secluding oneself from one’s daily routine and indulging in the worship of God, he learns to prioritize his life and give less worth to the life of this world. The Prophet, may the mercy and blessings of God be upon him, himself would practice this act of devotion, called I’tikaaf, during the last ten days of Ramadan. He would pitch a tent in the mosque and seclude himself in it, busying himself in various types of individual worship.
Muslims around the world take leave from their work or school and try to fulfill this act of worship, but because of its difficulty, as it entails a type of cutting off from daily life, few people do so. None the less, the majority of the congregational mosques do have a few people who take to this worship.
As one can see, Ramadan is indeed a very special time for Muslims around the world. It is a month of worship in which sinners repent and return to God, and the believer rejuvenate their faith. It is a training period in which one becomes accustomed to leading a life in accordance to the commands of God and seeking His Pleasure. It is a time when one strengthens their relationship with their Creator. It is a time when one trains himself to do extra acts of worship in addition to the obligatory. The month of Ramadan is one which has no match, and the feelings Muslims have in this month are unexplainable. For this reason, the companions of the Prophet would ask God to give them the blessing to experience Ramadan six months before its arrival, and for six months after its departure, they would seek forgiveness from God for their shortcomings in it. We ask God to accept the Muslims fasting and praying in this blessed month, and to give others the guidance to be able to fast it as Muslims.
Ramadan is a very special month for the Muslims, as in it Muslims around the world perform various types of worship, the most important of them being fasting. This fasting of Ramadan is one of the five pillars of Islam, mandatory upon all adolescents and adults who have the ability. Ramadan is also the month in which the first revelation came to the Prophet Muhammad, and thus is called the “Month of the Quran”. During this month, there is a noticeable change in people’s lives as well as societies. This article will describe a typical day of a Muslim during this month of forgiveness.
An Early Meal
“Eat a predawn meal, for indeed in it there is blessing.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
Although not obligatory, Muslims families throughout Ramadan rise early in the morning before the first traces of light and partake in a light meal in implementation of this Prophet teaching. Usually, the day of a Muslim starts with the dawn prayer performed when the first traces of light appear in the sky, but since it is the time when one starts the fast by withholding from food or drink, the Prophet, may the mercy and blessings of God be upon him, encouraged Muslims to arise before that time and partake in a meal.
From this it is clear that the point of fasting is not that one feels hunger throughout the day, but rather that one changes their lifestyle in order for it to be more conducive to the worship of Allah, a fact which will become quite clear. One who often misses the dawn prayer, the hardest of the five prayers to perform due to its stated time, in this blessed month arises early in order to partake in a meal. Thus this person becomes accustomed to awakening at an early hour, ultimately helping him to perform the dawn prayer for the rest of the year.
The most beloved of the voluntary prayers is one called “Qiyaam –ul-Layl”, or the Night Prayer. This prayer is performed before the dawn prayer in solitude. It is so beloved that it is usually nicknamed “the Prayer of the Pious”, a prayer performed by the devout when the majority of people are still sleeping in their beds. God described this prayer in the Quran, saying:
“Their sides forsake from (their) beds, calling upon their Lord in fear and in hope….” (Quran 32:16)
Waking in the early hours before dawn to eat a meal also encourage the believers to perform this blessed prayer, one which otherwise seem like an arduous task for some.
This predawn meal is to be eaten close to the time of dawn, and thus people continue to eat until they hear the mu’ezzin, or caller of prayer, call out the azaan from the local mosque, signaling that the first traces of light have appeared. Thus, Muslims end their meal and prepare themselves to attend the congregational prayer at their local mosque, held five times a day throughout the year.
The Month of the Quran
After attending the dawn prayer, many Muslims choose to sit in the mosque for a while and recite a selected portion of the Quran at this time. Recitation of the Quran is recommended at all times, and due to it one’s faith increases in Islam:
“The believers are only those who, when Allah is mentioned, their hearts tremble with fear, and when His Verses are recited unto them, they (i.e. the Verses) increase their Faith; and they put their trust in their Lord (Alone).” (Quran 8:2)
Being the month in which the Quran was revealed, Muslims are even more zealous to recite its entirety, as this was also done by the Prophet.
“[The Prophet] would meet him (Gabriel) every night in Ramadan and they would recite the Quran to each other.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
Quite often in Ramadan in the Muslim world, you will hardly find a mosque empty during any part of the day. Muslims try to set aside time this month in order to complete the Quran and ponder its meanings.
Fasting of the Day
In most Muslim countries, workload and schedules are lightened in order to accommodate for the special features of this month. Children go to school at a later time to accommodate for their early rise and the late night prayer, and the majority of businesses close well before dusk. Many stores also remain open throughout the night.
During daylight hours until the sun sets below the horizon. Muslim abstain all types of food and drink, as well as sexual intercourse with their spouses. This creates a sense within the Muslim throughout the day that they are obeying the commands of God, as they leave things which are perfectly permissible at other times. This created within the Muslims a conscience which encourages them to leave those deeds impermissible at all times. Muslims, dry-mouthed from lack of water and abstaining from all types of food seen throughout the day, gain a sixth sense – God consciousness - and this is the goal of fasting the month of Ramadan. God says in the Quran:
“Fasting has been prescribed for you as it has been prescribed for those before you in order that you become of the God-conscious.” (Quran 2:183)
Fasting is a secret worship which a person offers to God. He may very well eat and drink in privacy without anyone coming to know of it… but the trait which keeps the Muslim from doing so is this consciousness of His Lord.
For this reason, one sees that many sinful Muslims as well leave many of their sins during this blessed month, due to its sacredness, and one hopes that this will cause them to be more faithful throughout the remainder of the year.
The Prophet warned Muslims against certain sins they might easily fall into and thus ruin the goal of fasting. The Prophet said:
“Whoever does not stop speaking falsehood and acting in accordance with it, God has no need of him giving up his food and drink.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
He also warned against being provoked into behaving rudely. He encouraged Muslims to respond to one who may provoke him by saying:
“Indeed I am fasting, Indeed I am fasting.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
These Prophetic sayings are clear in that the main benefit of Ramadan is spiritual and moral rectitude.
Thus one finds in Muslim societies that a spirit of peace dwells in the hearts of Muslims throughout Ramadan, due to the extra worship and avoidance of all evilness and ill manners. One finds that people are generally more easy to deal with and lighthearted, and when one lives in a society for one month in which most of the people are fasting, the sense of unity and brotherhood which results is unmatched by any other occasion, except maybe the Hajj.
Iftar, or Breakfast
As the day ends, Muslims gather in their homes in wait for sunset. Mothers and daughters are usually busy at this time preparing breakfast and dinner, while men usually return from their work and slip into more comfortable clothes, either taking time to recite the Quran or help out in the preparation for breakfast. Before sunset, the family gathers at the dining table in wait for the mu’ezzin, utilizing this time supplicating to Allah and asking Him for His Mercy.
“Indeed for each fasting person there is a prayer which is answered when they break their fast.” (Tuhfat-ul-Muhtaj)
Once the call to prayer is heard, Muslims hurry to break their fast with dates, in emulation of the Prophet, and offer words of gratitude taught by the Prophet.
“The Thirst has been quenched, and the veins have become moist and full, and the reward is certain, God willing.” (Abu Dawood)
Many Muslims add:
“Oh Allah, indeed for You Alone I have fasted, and in You alone I have believed. With your provisions I have broken my fast, and upon You I have trusted.”
Muslims then eat a light meal of various appetizers and drinks. Many times, Muslims find themselves either invited or inviting others, whether they be members of the extended family, one’s friends, or the poor. The majority of mosques also offer free food in order ease the sufferings for the poor. May mosques hold iftar in order to strengthen community ties, common in countries in which Muslims are minorities. Prophet Muhammad encouraged to feed others during this blessed month in his saying:
“Whoever gives food to a fasting person with which to break his fast, he will have a reward equal to his (the fasting person)…” (Al-Tirmidhi)
Special rations are also distributed to needy households in the beginning of the month by charitable organizations to meet the needs of the month.
The delight felt at breaking fast is one truly indescribable. Never does the most meager of meals seem so tasty or bring so much joy to a believer. Indeed the Prophet spoke the truth when he said:
“The fasting person will feel two moments of joy: one moment when he breaks his fast and another when he meets his Lord.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
There is no time at that point to eat a large meal, as sunset is the time for another prescribed prayer. Muslims prepare to attend the congregational prayer, mostly always at walking distance. After attending the dusk prayer, some Muslims eat dinner, while others delay eating until the night prayer is finished, an event which is one of the main features of the night of Ramadan, another spiritual dimension of this blessed month of mercy and blessings.
Literally, “The Standing of the Night” due to its lengthy recitation which is performed during standing in prayer.
The chapter was revealed in the city of Meccan and opens with a reference to the defeat of the Byzantines (also known as the Roman Empire) at the hands of the Persians (613–14 CE) in Syria, and the subsequent victory of the Byzantines in 624 CE. The chapter urges people to reflect on their own creation and the heavens and earth. God’s power to give life to a barren land is an indication both of His ability to raise the dead and of His mercy to mankind. The disbelievers are warned to accept faith before it is too late, and the Prophet is urged to persevere and to ignore the bullying of the disbelievers.
Verses 1-7 Promise for the believers to gain victory
The first few verses of this chapter were revealed when Persia overpowered the Byzantine Empire in the Arab areas that were under its rule. This was also a time when arguments in Makkah raged between the early Muslims and Arab idolaters.
Since the Byzantines at that time were Christians, and the Persians were Magians, the unbelievers in Mecca exploited the event, drumming up the victory of polytheism over monotheism, and seeing in this Persian victory an omen for their own victory over the believers.
Therefore, the opening of this chapter heralds a victory for the people of the Scriptures, the Byzantines, within a few years. It says that this victory will bring much joy to the Muslims because they love for believers of any divine religion to gain the upper hand.
Verses 8-32 Reflection on the signs of God both in oneself and in other creatures, thinking of the ends of the old people, establishing the inevitable occurrence of Resurrection and showing people’s conditions then, God is worthy of praise and exaltation, some proofs for divine power and oneness, corrupt belief of the polytheists in idols, Islam is the religion of natural disposition and monotheistic faith
The Quran does not, however, stop at making this promise, nor does it confine itself to the event mentioned. In fact, it uses the event to show the believers and their opponents wider horizons. It establishes a link between them and the universe.
It also relates God’s rule to support divine faith to the great truth that regulates the heavens, the earth and all that is between them, as well as to the past, present and future of humanity. It then moves on to the life to come and the world beyond this earth. Indeed, the Quran takes us on a great round in which we see the marvels of the universe, the human soul, people’s situations and the wonders of nature. We are, thus, able to look at the wider horizons of knowledge, for our lives have been elevated and broadened. Furthermore, we are released from the strict confines of time, place and event, and can look at the universe, its operative rules, history, present and future.
Verses 33-45 Joy and harm are the reality of the polytheists contradiction, urging to fulfill the rights of the needy and forbidding interest, some proofs for monotheism, recompense of those who sow corruption and those who are pious
People’s concept of the true nature of the bonds and relations in this great universe is set on a higher platform. They begin to feel the real greatness of the laws that govern the universe and human nature, and appreciate those that regulate human life and its events. In this way, positions of victory and defeat are defined, and fair measures to judge people’s actions and activities in this life are set, so as to give them just reward both in the present life and in the life to come.
In the light of this broad concept, the universality of the Islamic message is clearly shown. Its interaction with events and world situations, even when it is still in its infancy and confined to Mecca and the surrounding valley, appears to be very positive. Its scope is broadened beyond this earth to link it to the nature of the universe and its major rules, human nature and its profound depths, as well as to the past and present of human life both in this world and in the world beyond.
Thus, a Muslim’s heart and mind are linked to these horizons to influence his feelings and the way he looks at life. He looks up to heaven and the life to come and contemplates the wonders and marvels of the universe. He appreciates his own position, and that of his community, in this great expanse. He realizes his own value and the value of his faith both in people’s and God’s measures. He thus fulfils his role and does his duties with a clear mind and with confidence and reassurance.
Verses 46-59 Proofs for God’s power and oneness, ungratefulness toward divine favors, manifestation of God’s power in the creation of man and the stages of his life, defiant unbelievers and the people of knowledge and faith on the Day of Resurrection, disbelievers attitude towards divine signs
The chapter depicts the fickleness of people’s cares and interests and how these are unsuitable as a basis for building human life. What people should look to instead is a constant measure that does not bend to suit self-interests. It describes such people when they enjoy God’s mercy and when they are afflicted by hardship, as well as in situations of affluence and poverty. It moves on to speak of how provisions should be used and increased. It then discusses the question of God’s alleged partners from this angle, showing how such alleged deities can never provide sustenance, initiate or terminate life. It links the spread of corruption on land and sea with what people do, and directs them to go about the earth reflecting on the ends met by past communities of unbelievers who associated partners with God. It then directs the Prophet to follow the religion of pure human nature before a day comes when everyone will be rewarded for what they do.
The chapter then provides some scenes of the universe, commenting that true guidance is that given by God, while the Prophet’s task is only to deliver his message. It is not in his power to make the blind see or the deaf hear. The chapter then takes us on a new round within the human constitution, reminding us of the stages of man’s development from beginning to end, starting with utter weakness in childhood, before it mentions death, resurrection and judgement, giving us a new scene of that day.
Verse 60 Urging the Prophet to be patient
The chapter concludes with a directive to the Prophet to remain patient in adversity and to bear whatever difficulties he meets. He should always remain confident that God’s promise will be fulfilled. Hence, he must not let himself be disturbed by those who lack faith. -islamreligion.com
What is the ruling on a person swallowing his saliva, because I noticed that many people in Ramadan spit a great deal to avoid swallowing their saliva, especially after rinsing their mouths during wudoo’. What is the ruling if the saliva comes from someone else such as his wife’s saliva? Please advise us, may Allah reward you with good
Praise be to Allah.
The laws of Islam are based on making things easier and on warding off unusual difficulty. Allah says in the verses on fasting (interpretation of the meaning):
“Allah intends for you ease, and He does not want to make things difficult for you”
And Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Allah does not want to place you in difficulty, but He wants to purify you, and to complete His Favour to you that you may be thankful”
“and [Allah] has not laid upon you in religion any hardship”
Hence if something is usually difficult to avoid and cannot be avoided, it does not affect the fast – which includes a person swallowing his saliva when fasting.
Ibn Qudaamah said:
What cannot be avoided, such as swallowing one’s saliva, does not invalidate the fast, because avoiding that is difficult. This is similar to dust on the road and the dust from flour. Even if a person lets saliva gather and swallows it deliberately, that does not invalidate his fast because it reaches his stomach in a similar way even if he does not let it gather.
Similarly if he sticks out his tongue with saliva on it, then brings it back in and swallows what is on it (of saliva), that does not break his fast according to the more correct view, because however the tongue moves it is regarded as part of the inside of the mouth, the nature of which cannot change, so it does not matter what is on it (of saliva).
Haashiyat Qalyoobi, 2/72.
What the fasting person has to do after rinsing his mouth:
Al-Nawawi said in al-Majmoo’ (6/327):
Al-Mutawalli and others said: If the fasting person rinses his mouth he has to spit out the water, but he does not have to dry his mouth with a piece of cloth etc,. There is no scholarly dispute on this point.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said: He does not have to spit even after drinking water when he hears the adhaan for Fajr. There is no report from the Sahaabah (may Allah be pleased with them) as far as we know to suggest that when a person drinks when dawn breaks he has to spit until the taste of the water disappears. Rather this is an area in which there is lenience.
Those scholars who think that a person should spit after rinsing his mouth do not ask him to spit more than once after expelling the water from the mouth. The reason why they stipulate spitting is that the water is mixed with the saliva so it does not come out just from spitting it out. But they do not recommend going to extremes in spitting, because all that is left after that is simply wetness and moisture, and cannot be avoided.
See al-Mawsoo’ah al-Fiqhiyyah, 28/63
But if anything else is mixed with the saliva that can be avoided, then it is essential to spit it out, then it will not matter if any trace of that is left after that, like a smell etc. This is like what is left from food after suhoor or small pieces that break off the siwaak, or bleeding that comes from the gums.
Based on this, there is no justification for those who spit a great deal during Ramadan except for being cautious to avoid something which it is not prescribed to be cautious about. This causes dryness in the mouth and makes them thirsty, and makes fasting difficult for them. It also causes them some hardship, especially if they are in places where spitting is not possible or they do not have any handkerchiefs etc with them. This may also cause them not to sit for long in the mosques to recite dhikr or read Qur’an, so they miss out on these good deeds during this blessed month.
With regard to swallowing his wife’s saliva, Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
With regard to swallowing the saliva of someone else, this invalidates the fast, because he is swallowing something that did not come from his own mouth, so it is likened to swallowing something else. If it is said that ‘Aa’ishah narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to kiss her when he was fasting and suck her tongue (narrated by Abu Dawood, 2386), our response is that it was narrated from Abu Dawood that he said this isnaad is not saheeh.
Among those who also classed the additional phrase “and suck her tongue” as weak (da’eef) is al-Albaani in Da’eef Sunan Abi Dawood. Ibn Qudaamah mentioned two ways of understanding the hadeeth if we assume that it is saheeh:
1 – That the two matters are not connected. He said: It may be that he used to kiss her when fasting and suck her tongue at other times.
2 – The hadeeth does not refer to swallowing saliva at all. He said: It may be that he sucked it (her tongue) but did not swallow the saliva, because the wetness on her tongue was not transferred to his mouth.
Based on this, if neither spouse swallows the saliva of the other, the fast is not invalidated.
But nevertheless, one spouse sucking on the tongue of the other comes under the general heading of things that lead to intercourse, and kissing and other things that lead to intercourse are forbidden if there is the fear that a person’s fast will be invalidated by ejaculation. But if he is confident that he can control himself then the correct view is that it is permissible but makrooh, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to kiss his wife whilst fasting. (Al-Bukhaari, 1927; Muslim, 1106)
But he should guard his fast against anything that may detract from it, especially since these things are permitted during the night in Ramadan. -islamqa.info
The 3rd day of Ramadan marks the wisal (passing away) of Khatun-e-Jannat (Noble woman of paradise) Bibi Fatima (alaihas salam), the beloved daughter of our HabibAllah Muhammad (sallalahu alaiihi wa sallam). May I, humbly request you to send Esaal-e-sawab (i.e. to perform a virtuous act and grant the reward to any person, alive or deceased) on her perfumed blessed soul?
When you do, please keep in mind the words of Mother of the believers. Hazrat Aisha (radiyallahu anha) said: “I have never seen anyone whose habit, character and the manner of speech were as similar to the Prophet sallal lahu alaihi wa sallam as Fatimah (radiyallahu anha)”.
An Esaal-e-sawab idea could be:
Assalamu alaiyka ya Sayyiduna Khatun-e-Jannat Fatimah az-Zahra!
1. To offer two rakat nafil prayers. You can perform any time of the day. A way of value-addition could be the nafils between Maghrib and Isha prayers as recommended by our Habib (sallal lahu alaihi wa sallam) and Hazrat Ali (karram Allah wajhah) in Ramadan. Although it will be reaching 4th night of Ramadan if you read this morning, nevertheless, we can add it up! On both rakats, after surah al-Fatiha, recite surah ikhlas (3 times). As it is said that in each rakat, 70,000 angels are appointed for the person praying to write good deeds/rewards in amal-nama until the day of Qiyamah. Supplicate to send the rewards of this prayer with countless additions in bounties as Allah Wills on her noble soul. And it would take you only few minutes! (also see my last post on this.)
2. When you supplicate, you may wish to recite verse 23, Surah Ash-Shura, at least 3 times.
‘Say: “No reward do I ask of you for this except the love of those near of kin.”‘ [Yusuf Ali’s translation]
And ask of Allah that He gives the love of His most loved ones, His favorites to you and therefore, enjoins you/your family with the Ahlul-Bayt (radiyallahu ta’ala anhum) in here and hereafter.
According to some gnostic scholars and shaikhs, this very verse holds intricate and extreme secret of seeding and sprouting kinship, bonding the person along with his/her family with these Noble ones. Various other tafsirs have been related to this verse over the years. It holds a great value for enthusiasts of tasawwuf. It is a hidden pearl that helps a seeker to acquire knowledge and unseen holy initiation by the blessed souls at peace.
3. There are some common words that we know about Bibi Fatima (as). May I repost this for the sake of remembering again, as ALLAH Wills:
Shaykh Muhammad bin Yahya al-Ninowy (may Allah preserve him) said in a khutbah:
Opinion of Umar (radiallahu anhu) said, “Nobody is better than Fatima (as) because the Prophet (sallalalahu alaihi wa’alihi wassalam) said “Fatima is a piece of me.”
Fatimah, the name comes from Fatama, means “when you breast feed a baby for 2 years and then you stop feeding and prevent it from milk”. So Fatima is prevented from the hellfire. Interior meaning – “distance/separate something from something.” Imam Baqer (ra) said, “When she stands for salah, her light shines from there to the heavens”.
The wife of Abu Talib used to love the Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wa sallam) more than her own kids, and he use to call her “Mother after my mother”. She was called Fatima Bint Assad, and when she died “The Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wa sallam) went into her grave and lay there first, and then came out and said, now bury her”. Due to her name being Fatima, he also called his daughter Fatima. After the death of Khadija (radiallahu anha) and all the close ones to the Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wassalam), Fatima was the one who use to take care of his needs, hence called “the mother of his father.” yet she was only 8 years old or so. Umm Salama (radiallahu anha) says, “No person of the family resembled him (sallalahu alaihi wa alihi wassalam) more than Fatima, and when the Sahabiyyas (companions) wanted to see a glimpse of the Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wa alihi wassalam), they would just look at Fatima (radiallahu anha), because they saw him (sallalalahu alaihi wa alihi wassalam) in her. Look as the way she raised her son Hassan (radiallahu anhu), and sees him making duas (supplication) and says “Did you make dua (supplication) for the neighbours too?”
The Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wa’alihi wassalam) use to kiss her hands and forehead, and she would get up for him and seat him vice versa.
Once Hazrat Salman Farsi (radiallahu anhu), companion of the prophet Muhammad (sallal lahu alaihi wa sallam) was called upon by the noble lady to present some heavenly gifts brought to her. She instructed him to break his fast from the dates and bring back the stones to her.
Hazrat Salman (radiyallahu anhu) narrates, “At night, I broke my fast with the dates, but did not find any stones in them. The next day I went to Rasulallaah’s daughter and said: I broke my fast with your gift, but did not find any [seed] stones in them. She said: O Salmaan! They would not have any [seed] stones. They are from a palm that Allah has planted in Heaven because of a supplication that my father had taught me, which I recite every morning and night.
I said, ‘please teach me those words’. She then said, ‘If you wish to avoid being inflicted with fever whilst you are in this world, then you should regularly recite these words. They are:
“In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful.
In the name of Allah, the Light. In the name of Allah, the Light of Light. In the name of Allah who is Light above Light. In the name of Allah, who directs and controls all affairs. In the name of Allah, who created light from Light. All praise is due to Allah who created light from Light. And sent down light on Tur, mentioned in the broad leaves of the guarded tablet, and on Him. All praise is due to Allah, who is spoken of with respect and who is famous for His Honour. And who deserves thanks both in happiness and sorrow.
And may Allah bless our Leader Muhammad and all his holy descendants.”
1. “O Allah! Belittle me in my eyes and glorify and magnify Your status to me. And inspire me to be obedient to You. And inspire me with deeds that receive your satisfaction. And aid me in evading and shunning deeds and actions that bring your wrath.”
2. “O Allah! Make me content with what you have bestowed upon me. And till the end of time conceal my transgressions and protect me from further transgressions. Forgive me and take mercy upon me when I die. O Allah do not make me labour for that you have not preordained for me, and facilitate all things that you have predestined for me.”
3. “O Allah reward my parents and all those who have been beneficent to me with the best of your rewards.”
4. “O Allah occupy me with that which you have created me for. And do not engross me with my own commitments. And do not torment me whilst I am asking forgiveness of you and do not deprive me when I ask of you.”
5. It is narrated that a lady came and asked Fatima (as) a question. She answered her. The lady continued to ask until her questions reached ten. After that the lady felt embarrassed about asking more. She said, ‘I won’t overburden you with more questions, Oh daughter of the Prophet. Fatima (as) answered saying, ‘Ask anything you wish for I heard my father say that the scholars from my people will on the day of Judgement be bestowed with honours depending on the amount of knowledge they possess and how much strain they exert in teaching the people.’
It is said by some saints that the earth of her grave in Jannat-ul Baqi is seen moist and darker out of tears from prayers of her for salvation of the Ummah. She is the one who will carry the shirts of her two martyred sons (Imam Hassan bin Ali & Imam Husayn bin Ali, AS.) soaked one in poison and the other in blood and, plead for salvation from Allah for the ummah in exchange of the sacrifices on the day of judgement.
It is also chained by saints that the ones who strive to achieving love of Fatima (as), she would also intercede for him/her and would not like to enter Heaven without those people. Imam Abu Ja’far (ra.) narrated from chain of transmission of his grandfather about the day of judgement and Hazrat Fatima (as). He tells: Allah, the Blessed and Exalted is His Name, shall say, `O people of the gathering; to whom does honor belong today?’ So Muhammad, Ali, Hassan and Al-Hussayn (A) will say: ‘To Allah, The one, The Almighty.”
Allah the Exalted will say: “O people of the gathering: lower your heads and cast your eyes down, for this is Fatima proceeding towards Paradise.’ Gabriel shall then bring her a female camel from the female camels of Paradise; its sides shall be embellished, its muzzle with fresh pearls, and it shall have a saddle of coral. It shall kneel down in her presence; so she will ride it. Allah will then send 100, 000 angels to accompany her on her right side; and 100, 000 angels to accompany her on her left side; and 100, 000 angels to lift her onto their wings until they bring her to the gate of Paradise. When she is near the gate of Paradise, she will look to her side. Allah will then say: “Daughter of My beloved, why did you look to your side after I gave the command that you enter my Paradise?” She will say: “My Lord, I wished that my position would be realized on such a Day!”
Allah will say: “Daughter of My beloved! Go back and look for everyone in whose heart was love for you or for any of your progeny; take their hands and lead them into paradise!”
Quoting the pearls from her sermon in Masjid un Nabi in Medinah al-Munawwara:
“Allah has made faith (imaan) [the means] to purify you from polytheism; And (made) prayer to guard you from arrogance/pride (egoism); and rendered alms (zakat) to chasten one’s soul and increase one’s sustenance; and prescribed fasting (sawm) for the maintenance and firmness of one’s sincerity; and set pilgrimage (Hajj) for the consolidation and reinforcement of the religion; and enjoined justice (adl) for the sake of harmonization of the hearts; and enjoined the subordination and obedience to us (the household of the Prophet SAWW/Ahlul Bayt AS) for the security of Islamic community (millat); and our leadership (Imamate) as a safety from disunity); and prescribed holy war (Jihad) to honor Islam and denounce the infidels and the hypocrites; and patience as a help for getting reward; and caused commanding goodness (amar bil ma’roof) and forbidding to do evil (nahi anil munkar) for the benefit of the people; and kindness to parents as a protection/shield against His (Allah) wrath; and strengthening ties with near kin, the cause of lengthening of life:….. and the forbiddance of drinking wine/alcohol to guard one from filth (rijs); and Allah prohibited polytheism for the sincere devotion to His Divinity; so O believers fear Allah as you rightly should, and (see that) you die not but Muslims.”(Ref: Quran, Surah Aal-e-Imran, verse – 102)
The Collection of Risal-i-Nur by Sayyid Badiuzzaman Nursi ra.
May Allah accept our prayers, sawm & grant us love of the noble perfumed souls.